Ladies, have you ever wondered what your true value is when dating or looking for that special someone?  So many times I hear single women talk about what they want in a man/life partner.  Before really evaluating what you want in a man, I think we all should do some self-reflecting on ourselves to know exactly what we’re worth before looking for “Mr. Right”.  Once you realize your worth, then attracting Mr. Right won’t be as difficult as you think.

If there was a point system to determine your worth, where do you think you would rank?  On the confidence scale, where would fall?  Do you wake up every morning and feel you are ready to take on the world?  Being a confident person brings a sort of power you can possess in everyday walks of life.  You must be sure of yourself and your own abilities.  If you are not confident and sure of yourself, how can others feel that way about you?  One thing for sure is most successful men will admire a confident woman.

Where would rank on the self-esteem meter?  You must have pride in oneself.  Again, how will someone else have that same pride in you if you don’t see it in yourself?    You must wake up every morning and tell yourself you are beautiful, strong, sexy, and successful!  If you have not been doing this, then begin.  It’s never too late to begin feeling love for yourself.   If you do not love yourself, how can you transfer love to someone else?  Beauty is not just on the outside, but the inside as well.  Let your inner beauty shine.  It won’t take long for others to see that beauty and really get to see what you see.  Men love women with high self-esteem.  I once heard a famous comedian say that “self-esteem is esteem of your motherfu**ing  self!”  No one can do this for you.

Do you know where you would rank on the independence meter?  This attribute can be a tricky one.  I only say that because sometimes men need to feel needed.  They don’t want to feel emasculated and want to be “the man” in the relationship.  I do feel being independent is very important, but in some cases women shouldn’t be overly independent.  However, men do like independent women.  As women, we have to give off the aura that we are able to take care of ourselves because realistically, you need to be able to take care of yourself.  Dependence on others in everything is never a good thing if one is to be successful in life.  Most successful men do not like lazy women with no get-up-and-go about themselves.  Being independent can be an attraction magnet for that successful man.

In order to know your worth, you also need to know how secure you are.  Men definitely do not like women who are insecure and always have doubts and fears.  Do you have demons from your past that keep you from moving forward?  If you rank low in this area, you are not ready for Mr. Right.  You have to release the demons, find and/or seek forgiveness and move one.  Past insecurities can definitely hinder any future relationships.  How attractive do you think it would be to find Mr. Right if you are giving off the secure vibe?  I think it would be very positive.

So on a scale from 1 to 10, with 10 being the highest, what would you be?

CONFIDENCE          1          5          10

SELF-ESTEEM        1          5          10

INDEPENDENT        1          5          10

SECURE                 1          5          10

You really have to be honest with yourself.  If you fall below a total score of 20, you really have some work to do.  To be more confident, find that one thing that you have passion doing and do it even better.  That confidence can transfer over to other projects and other aspects of life.  Get in the mirror and tell yourself you are beautiful inside and out every single day.  Get up off your behind and find and create the independence you need to be successful.  Find that one project where you don’t need help and raise your game to the next level.  Lastly, get rid of the past demons that are keeping you from being secure.  No man wants to deal with the baggage from the past.  Once you have realized your own true worth, you will then know what you are looking for in Mr. Right.  The same attributes that you must possess will the same attributes you will want Mr. Right to possess!





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