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In 2010, following my divorce, I made a list of all the things I wanted to do or experience by time I turned the dirty-thirty. Yesterday I came across that list. I’d have to admit, while it totally slipped my mind, I was pleasantly surprised how much of it I had nailed. Last November I hit that big milestone and while parts of my life appeared to be a beautiful nightmare. After peeling away the layers, I had an epic epiphany.

Sure my girl’s were traveling around the world, hitting red carpets and jet setting to God knows where while I was trying to scrub off the new baby spit-up off my favorite go-to tee, when the dust settled, I learned that you don’t necessarily have to be a globe trotter to get a little life under your belt.

So, long story short, today I complied a list of the biggest lessons I learned on the road to thirty. Yes, it’s crazy late, but I felt inspired. Now, before some of you begin to go in with “duh this sh– is common sense.” or “ignorance is a disease.” trust me, I’ve heard it all. These lessons are based on my own experiences and frankly I’m here to hopefully inspire someone else… not for your two cents. So lets get to it…

  1. How to fall in love without losing yourself – By now, you should know that there’s a fine line between love and lust. Unlike what you see on reality TV, love is not toxic, full of drama and dysfunction. Nor is it abusive in any form. If you feel like you have lost yourself, family or friends… it’s time to reevaluate.
  2. How you feel about having kids – To procreate or not to procreate, that is the question. For some relationships, this is a deal breaker and a massive responsibility, so make sure you are 100% committed and able before bringing a child into this crazy world.
  3. How to quit a job, break up with a man and confront a friend without ruining the friendship – Hate your job? Quit! Not happy in your relationship? End it! Enough with, “easier said than done,” because well, it’s just that simple. You are soley responsible for your happiness. Once you realize this, life will look a whole lot brighter.
  4. How to live alone, even if you don’t like to – Going at it alone can be a little scary but it is also liberating. Sure you’ll know longer be under the comfort of your parents roof but there’s something amazeballs about being able to say I did this. I worked my a$$ off and this was the outcome.
  5. How to take control of your own birthday – By now, you’re probably over the clubs. And I get it. Instead of waiting for your friends to plan your perfect bash, plan it yourself. No disappointment. No room for error or drama because the guess what? The guest list is your who’s who and no one else.

I could go on and on, but this seemed like a good start. What are a few things you feel each woman should know by time she turns 30? We’d love to hear from you!

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