Summer is right around the corner, which for many, means you’re relationship is about to be tested, Babes in bikini’s, day parties, Ciroc — while all these things sound amazeballs they’re also reasons why some men tend to stir up drama between their one and only or in some cases, call it quits altogether. After several years of piss poor selection and dating a few certified douchebags, I can tell you, while some men may say they’re interested, they could very well just be what I call “users,” or worse, stringing you along until they find someone they believe to better. Luckily for you guys, there are a few signs you can use to expose the phonies. Keep reading for the 411…
1. He won’t make plans in advance
He NEVER makes plans. You see him when he feels like swinging by or when he needs something… especially when he needs something. In that moment, he’ll also make you feel like he needs you, you him and that without each other, you can’t win. Wrong! This is manipulation at it’s finest.
2. He avoids introducing you to his friends and family
If you’ve been dating a man for a long time and you have yet to meet his parents or friends, this is a major sign, that you’re not a true staple in his life.
3. He’s available — at midnight
While this may seem obvious to many, when a man is laying down some good pipe game, some women will buy any excuse as to why their special someone is only available after the clock strikes midnight. Ladies, save yourself the drama. No he is not at his mother’s (or grandmother’s). No he is not working late. He is riding ’round and getting it (in my 2 Chainz voice).
4. He guards his computer and phone when you’re around
Everyone is entitled to privacy and no one should feel obligated to give up passwords or make their personal email account accessible to anyone. However, if the man you’re dating consistently closes his laptop when you enter the room, keeps his phone with him when he goes to the bathroom, and behaves in a paranoid manner when you get close to his tech devices, he’s most likely got something to hide.
5. It’s always your house, never both
You don’t know where he lives! Listen… while I have never experienced this, I know women who have. If he can’t share his home with you, he’s not interested in letting you get to know him. I don’t care if he has a nasty roommate, lives at home with his mom, in a box; even his nasty roommate is worth meeting at some point.
6. He’s not interested in your life: work, friends, etc.
When a man is into you, he’s into everything about you: your job, your passion/s, who your friends are… He won’t zone out or bounce every time you begin to open up about your life.
7. He doesn’t hit you back within 24 hours
This may sound a little Fatal Attraction but it’s the truth. If someone is crazy about you, they can find 30 seconds during their day to reach out. Secondly, if he only texts you or when you call and miss him, he immediately shoots you a text, chances are some other lovely lady is occupying his time. If he had time to twiddle his thumbs across that keypad, he had just as much time to answer and say “I’m busy, let me hit you back.”
At the end of the day ladies, the signs are all there. It’s 2015; there’s no more cat and mouse game. Do yourself a favor and pay attention to his actions… those sweet words he may be spitting are just that… game.
– you’re welcome